Most of us are familiar with mosquito
bites. If you had the opportunity to travel abroad, you might have heard about
bed bug bites. If you had the experience with bed bugs, you would agree that
they are even more dreadful than the mosquito bites. In this post, a more
powerful, subtle, prejudice-directed, untraceable bite is explored. The
dictionary says it is
backbite (v): To speak spitefully or
slanderously about (another).
As you noticed, it is a verb. That
means anyone of us can actually backbite our fellow colleague or friends or
even relatives. The tendency is with everyone. Since everyone is imperfect, we make
mistakes. When they are pointed out, exclusively associated to a person, spoken
about in a repetitive manner, laughed about, the result is an irreversible
damage to a person’s reputation. If we look at it honestly, we have to agree
that, if we have a practice of backbiting, we are displaying multiple
personality. We behave in a certain way in front of a person, and we behave in
another way behind that person. We see that mosquitoes or bed bugs are not
partial, they bite us whether we are awake or sleeping irrespective of skin color or racial background. But a backbiter is highly unpredictable, because
he/she bites behind the back.
What is the solution?
Well !! We cannot
avoid others from biting behind our back, but we can try not to backbite
ourselves. We might be able to atleast reduce the frequency. Best thing to have
respect for everyone, irrespective of whether they are older or younger,
north or south, white or Black. I don't know how to earn respect, but I'm sure
If we
respect others, then others will respect you.
After all we are all humans!